Romantic Movies

I am thinking a lot.

First, why do people watch romantic movies?

I feel that they are suddenly really fantastic. Throughout the movie, each character goes through struggles that ultimately lead them to become better people, or making the right decision, in the end. Even the “bad guys” now days make the right decision, or maybe that is only in romantic movies. I am not sure right now.

The point is. It doesn’t always go that way. Most of the time people mess up and make horrible mistakes. Also, instead of going and facing them, they run away.

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I have slight salt towards myself because maybe I am running away. But it’s working, and I feel happy, I think.

This is the happiest I can be right now. At least, that is what I think.

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So, when I ask, why do people like romantic movies? I guess I am wondering how these movies make other people feel.

When I am watching the movie, it is amazing. You know, I am living that life, overcoming those struggles, making the right decisions, and falling in love. All these emotions are intoxicating, and they motivate me to want to become the best version of myself.

Then the movie will end, and my heart begins to ache, longing for something more, something deeper, something real.

I can linger for a few minutes, an hour at most, in the fantasy of the movie. My mind and body are wrapped in the warmth of the characters' love.

But it never lasts.

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So, I ask again, why do people watch romantic movies?

I feel like I am torturing myself with a reality that does not exist, but I am too afraid to go back into the world of romance. So, I become stuck in this realm where I can’t decide if I am even happy.

Some happiness is better than none though, right?

If I dread the rest of my existence, finding happiness in a few short hours is good, even if it is just an escape, right?

I don’t know. I have been rambling again.

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Please let me know what your thoughts are on romantic movies. Also, I don’t know. I sort of like them I’ve decided. It is nice to “fall in love” vicariously. Saves you entirely from rejection, pain, resentment, loss, fear, and all the other big bad ones.

Right now, I am okay with where I am at, even with all the many flaws that I will eventually have to work through.

Avoidance is key. And a great coping mechanism. Maybe one day I will figure out a better method.



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